Problems With Feminism

Before I did my research and actually classed myself as a feminist I had a very narrow minded view on what feminism was. In my mind, I thought that it was a group (mostly lesbians with short blue hair -more on that later) that claimed that women are better than men. In some ways I still don't think that it was unjustified because I still see quotes like "I'm a feminist, I've been a female for a long time now   It would be stupid not to be on my own side". I just don't think that feminism is about that, surely it shouldn't be just about females then we're just as bad as men have historically been. Isn't it about men and women being equal, being valued and respected the same. But if feminism is just for females, am I actually I feminist or do I just believe in equality?

I mentioned something along the lines of a lesbian with blue hair earlier and I realise that of course that is a false representation of the feminism group. But unfortunately I think that it is what the media covers the most because it draws the most attention. Just like how I think that men and women can be feminists, I think that absolutely anyone who falls under those categories (or genderless obviously) can be too... without being shamed. Sometimes I hear things like "you can't be a feminist you wear make up" or "you're  married to a patriarchal man, you cant be a feminist", what?! We should be celebrating individuals not judging them for who they are. It's a bit like how I'm completely pro homosexuals but I'm still straight. I wear makeup but I would class myself as a feminist. 

I think feminism should be about equality and that's it. We can't shame decent modern men for their history but we can expect the exact same respect, treatment and value that they get. It's almost common sense.